Article 5: Separation — The List

When going through a separation that was not your choice, the only way not to lose yourself is to look reality in the face. These questions are a compass to remain anchored without dissolving, a means to gather and unify the energies left behind.

The list of things you must look at:

• Emotions: what you feel when you think of the person.

• The memories that resurface and the feelings you have toward them.

• At what level do I feel betrayed?

• Where does my heart feel forsaken?

• What is my soul's message regarding this separation, this grief?

• Where is this nesting in my body?

• Which thought is recurring?

• What am I not telling myself for fear of falling deeper?

• How has my grieving process been?

• What would I have wanted to do?

• What are my regrets?

• Can I forgive myself?

The answer is time.

This list is valid for all phases of grief. We have billions of layers of memories in our cells. You cannot heal from deep grief by crying once. That would be denial.

But, if we stop and take the time to listen to all our layers, then the grief will be dissolved in a few days; only small fragments will return, and that is NORMAL.

These questions help you find your way through these complicated situations. They allow you to not be defined by the past and to gather and unify the energies left behind.